Dear Steve and Shirley,
I am 23 years old writing from Dallas, Texas. About three years ago, I made a vow to God to and to myself to remain celibate. Since then, it has been a long road. I know what God’s Word says and I know the right thing to do. It seems that this decision has caused me more heartache than anything else. I have been single for about 4 years and I really want companionship. It seems I meet man, after man, after man, and none of them seem to last. I’m losing energy to put into someone and going through the whole process over and over again, is getting old. I am starting to feel like I made the wrong decision out of my own selfish will, before seeking the will of God about the decision. So now I’m starting to think about if I should go back or not. It seems like I’ll never get a man. If I changed my commitment, would this help or would I be settling? I am torn. I don’t want to invest another 6 months and it doesn’t work out. I have met maybe 20 different men. How am I supposed to be the only woman around that’s not physically pleasing someone?
Please help me, please.