Good Morning Steve and Shirley,
Steve, I need your help. I’m my husband’s mistress. We were together for 7 years and we have 2 kids together. Being young, we had a lot of problems with money, unemployment, housing, cheating on his part, and some issues like drugs and physical abuse on his part. While some things got better, some things got way out of hand, so I had to put him out for my children’s sake. Years passed and he and I had very little contact and I got fed up with his neglect of our children, so I marched myself straight to his front door, full of fire, but when he touched me, I melted; fire out! He told me he had someone that’s 10 years older and they’d been together for years but he was still in love with me and she knew it. Well, it got complicated and we started sleeping together and trying to rebuild our relationship. He got caught and the 3 of us discussed it and tried a 3 way relationship, but in the end, I found myself broken-hearted and alone. Wait, it gets better. Years passed, I moved on and had another mans baby. Upon first contact again with my husband, he stated that I am still his wife and he promised to never leave again. I tried to fight it but he’s the only man I’ve ever been in love with. Yes he’s still with her and she found out about us and got really sick and ended up in the hospital. He comes to see me every day and we spend time together and we kiss in public. He visits her in the hospital and tends to her needs, all while keeping me a public secret. He has to be there for her right now and asked me to be patient. I’m so confused and afraid. I don’t want to hurt this woman again, she’s a nice person. Because of her age and illness, I’m even willing to try the 3 way relationship again because I don’t want to leave her sick and alone. Steve, I don’t know what to do. I just want my family to be whole again. Is this man just taking my love for granted or does he truly love me and want to be in my life?